Motivation for Success

In Our Relationship With People And Dealing With The Circumstances Of Life That We Face, There Are Only Two Possible Outcomes –We Get Bitter Or We Get Better! It's That Simple. You Either Take What Has Been Dealt To You And Allow It To Make You A Better Person, Or You Allow It To Tear You Down And Make You A Bitter Person. The Choice Does Not Belong To Fate; It Belongs To You. The Willpower Is In Your Hands! Understand That, The Difference Between Bitter And Better Is The Letter “I.” When People Hurt You To Make You Bitter, You Have The Power Of “I” To Turn The Situation Into Better. This Means You Can Decide To Be: - Imperturbable; Ignorant; Immovable; Indifferent; Or Insensitive, To The Sources Or Originators Of The Bitterness. This Is The Secret To Peace Of Mind! According To Arun Pandit, “Don’t Let The Bitter Replace The Better Inside Of You.” Getting Bitter At Every Act Of Deceit, Disappointment, Betrayal, Backstabbing, Etc., Will Take A Toll On Your Peace Of Mind. Do N...

One Notable Nature Of The Homo Sapiens, In Everything We Do, Say, Think, Or Want, Is The Element Of Selfishness. It Is In Our Blood. We Rarely Consider The Implication Of Our Actions or Inactions On Others, As Long As We Are Happy And Satisfied. No! That Is Morally And Ethically Wrong! Before You Throw A Stone At Somebody, Consider If It Was Thrown At You! Before You Stab Somebody In His/Her Back, Consider If You Were Stab In The Back The Same Way! Before You Malign Somebody’s Character And Integrity, With Intent To Bring Him/Her Down, Consider If It Was Done To You! Understand That Pulling Somebody Climbing The Stairs Down Will Make You Also Go Down. Before You Downplay The Suffering, Trials And Challenges Of Another, Put Yourself In The Person’s Shoes. It Is Very Risky, Insensitive And Inhuman To Criticize A Pain You Haven’t Endured. My Favourite Parable For Living A Positive And Influential Life Is The Golden Rule, Which Says, “Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You.” (M...

Many People Have Suffered One Hurt Or The Other In Life, Either In Relationship, Business, Finance, Academic, Career Or Ministry, Etc. It’s Impossible To Escape Being Hurt, Disappointed, Or Betrayed By Others, Including Those You Trusted, Among Families, Friends And Colleagues. It's Part Of Human Nature. That Is Why Sometimes, HURT Comes From Placing Too Much TRUST In Someone, Forgetting That They Are Human Being, And Not God Who Will Not Betray Our Trust. The Holy Bible Says, “Woe To Those Who Put Their Trust In Men….” (Jeremiah 17:5). Understand That, You Have The Ability And Capacity To Manage Or Mismanage Hurts, Disappointments, Betrayals, Deceits, Distrust, Etc. To Avoid Getting HURT, Adopt The Principle Of, “TRUST But VERIFY.” While It Is Good To Trust Your Partners, Colleagues, And Associates Due To The Intimacy And Confidence Built Over The Time, It Does No Harm To Always Verify Any Information Or News Given Or Received About Them. Carry Out What I Called, Personality And ...

When God didn’t give you the life you dreamed of, not even close, you have to accept the life that he designed for you, because He knows what is BEST for you. Understand that, your thoughts are not His thoughts; neither are your ways His ways. You may have many plans for yourself, but it is the purpose of God that shall prevail! (Proverbs 19:21) Today, you may be feeling weary, frustrated and disappointed about your life, simply because you are not what you dreamed of. Relax, because you are not alone in that state. Its natural and normal for humans to feel that way. You are free to have that feeling. Go ahead and allow yourself to grieve. You can even weep deeply, if you like. You can mourn the delay of what you hoped for or sad over the loss of what you cherished so much. But then after you have lamented, wash your face, look for good food to eat, buy chicken suya and cold yoghurt to take, and put a smile on your face. Then trust God, and embrace the life he has given you. He knows ...

It's Human Nature, And Even Animals To Desire Some Measures Of Freedom. Nobody Like To Be Caged. Freedom Connotes Been Independent And Having A Mind Of Your Own, And Taking Responsibility For Your Actions And Inactions. But Nobody Has Exclusive Freedom In This World. We Still Need Check And Balances So That Our Freedom Do Not End Up In Free-Doom. When A Man Or Woman Thinks He Or She Is Free And Independent To Make Certain Decisions, Without Recourse To Safe Counsel, Such An Individual Is Heading To Free-Doom. Even, The Holy Bible Says, “In The Multitude Of Counsel There Is Safety.”(Proverbs 11:14) An Adage In My Village Says,” We Are Protecting The Young Chicks From Untimely Death In The Hands Of The Hawks, And Its Complaining That The Mother Does Not Allow It To Freely Go And Pick In The Dustbin.” The Implication Of Unchecked Freedom In A Disaster - “FREE-DOOM”. Do You Know There Is Danger In Absolute Freedom? - If You Think You Are Matured And Have Freedom To Make Marital Decis...

Sometimes Ago, I Intentionally Refused To Subscribe For My Cable TV For More Than Two Years. The Service Provider Kept Calling Asking If Anything Was Wrong With My Decoder, Because They Discovered I Had Not Subscribed For A Long Time. I Replied That My Decoder Was Okay! Why Did I Refuse To Subscribe? It Was Because, Any Time I Put On My TV, It Was Always Bad News of Killings, Kidnappings, Communal Clashes, Accidents, Natural Disasters, Unimaginable Stealing By Government Officials, Political Violence, Etc. Whenever I hear them, my heart would be troubled and I would be restless tossing on my bed and unable to sleep! For The Sake Of My Peace and Heart Health, I stopped watching or listening to the news! Have You Ever Listened To Some News Or Words From Another Person or Somewhere That Makes Your Heart To Skip And Pant, Troubled, And it Affected Your Mood? You are suffering from Bad Information Traumatic Stress Disorder(BITSD) Did You Know That, What You Hear Or Listen To Has A Tendenc...

The Beauty Of Raw Gold Cannot Come Out Except It Passes Through The Furnace Where It Is Refined To Become A Precious, Valuable, Expensive, Luxurious And Beautiful Gem. So Is Every Problem In Your Life. It Is Meant To Take You To The Next Level That God Intended For You (Jeremiah 29:11). Its Human To Tag You With A Name Based On The Problem Or Challenges You Are Facing. For Example, The Lame Man At The Beautiful Gate (Act 3:1-10); Blind Bartimeaus (Luke 10:42-51); Woman With Issue Of Blood (Mark 5:25-34). It Was Through Their Problem That They Connected With Jesus-The Destiny Changer. The Endpoint Of Every Problem Is The Ability To Give You An Emblem, In Form Of New Name, New Status, New Levels, New Insight, New Revelation, New Perspective, And New Orientation In Life. Even If You Have Tried And Failed In A Particular Self-Development Project, Try Again And Again. Remember, Quitters Will Never Win Except Lose. According To Bern Williams, "If We Try And Fail, We Have Temporary D...

When I was young and in the village, my late father used to do some special traditional prayers and oblation. And during the prayer process, he would hold his head with his two hands and begin to make positive pronouncements. Because I was closer to my father, he would sometimes tell me some hidden ancient wisdom and secrets. So, I asked him, "Father, what is special about your head that you always hold in your two hands when doing oblations?" He replied, "Femi, ori eni ni awure. Ori eni ni ngbere koni." Meaning, “our head is the custodian of wealth and our head is an attractor of blessing, favour and fortune.” And he counselled me to always make pronouncements with both hands holding my head. He said that whatever I use my mouth to say to my head is what would happen. That, it's the ancient secrets that never fail. Why the head? What is so significant about the head? What is the mystery surrounding the head? I queried! The head is the most important part of the...

It is human nature to feel recognised, to be part of the system, to be part of the moving train, to be part of a team, to be part of a group or society, and to be the “good person” in the “good book” of other people. You are definitely living in an illusion! You can’t always say YES to everybody! Dare to be different in a world where everyone is the same: see alike, talk alike, reason alike, think alike and do things alike, like puppets! Dare to be different in a world characterized by stereotypes! Get out of the box! To think is to differ. Thinkers are change makers. Those who think don’t sink. According to Clarence Darrow, "A man without the capacity to think is dead; he has no purpose, no present, and no future." Know that, you have no COPY in this world, because you are created UNIQUE, and a RARE SPECIES! (Psalm 139:14) Standout and be known for something! Be objective and real! The world will adjust to “YOU”! When you have a stand, people will stand with you! Always lear...

The world has been described as a moving train. If you don’t join the train, you will be left behind. In order not to be left behind, you MUST constantly EVOLVE and INNOVATE, otherwise, you will DISSOLVE and DISAPPEAR! To sustain your relevance and remain a man or woman of value, you need to always strive to evolve. Life is a moving, breathing thing. We have to be willing and intentional to constantly evolve in every area of our endeavor. Perfection is constant transformation, a change from the norm. The most dangerous thing to do in life is not to evolve, you will dissolve. It is either you evolve or disappear into oblivion. If you fail to evolve, you will soon see yourself as irrelevant and of no value to society. Society itself will abandon you because you have no value to offer anymore! When you are perceived as a man or woman of value, you attract honour, respect, and even money! The Holy Book says, “The gift of a man will make a way for him, he shall stand before kings and not ...